Things That Every Woman Needs to Help Her Conquer The World & Celebrate Herself!

So I was sitting at home on my couch one evening when I thought to myself. “You know what, Rach, there are just some things every woman should have.” Call it our inalienable rights, but I truly believe that we women are dope AF and we should have certain tools to help us make a difference in the world or even just get through a shitty day!

In lieu of Women’s History Month; an annual declared month that highlights the contributions of women to events in history and contemporary society, I felt that it was important to highlight the importance of women celebrating themselves, embracing their womanhood and promoting self care! I’ve compiled this list of items that I feel are important for each & every woman to carry with her as she journeys through life. May they serve as a map and compass to guide her along the way. As we know, trials & tribulations come, but as do many triumphs!

Here goes the list, “Things Every Woman Needs to Help Her Conquer The World & Celebrate Herself”:

A good book.
Every woman should have that one book that when she reads it, it’s like she’s reading a whole different book for the first time. It could be something that changes your perspective or perhaps a romance that makes your heart flutter! What centers you? What moves you? This book will be your “go to” and perhaps it will change as you evolve as a person.

A serene space.
Be it a warm bath, a corner in your favorite coffee shop or a nook in your own home, we should all have a place away from the demands of the world. A place where we can block out the noise and clear our minds.

A planner.
Some would say that cleanliness is next to godliness and if you ask me, organization is definitely a second runner up. Some may use their phones or tablets, but I am pretty old school. I like to see things written into something that is tangible. I remember always having had some sort of planner. I believe it began in high school when I was given an agenda during high school orientation. Since then, I have always carried one in my purse or work bag. Adulting doesn’t come easy to me. Trying to stay on top of the day to day can be a huge challenge, but having a planner helps me get my entire life together! Every woman should own one… I think so anyways.

A mantra.
Every girl should have a quote or saying that she refers back to. One that uplifts her when she feels like the world is against her or when things are seemingly falling apart around her. One that celebrates her when she experiences life’s joys. The mantra should mean something special to her. It should remind her of her ‘why’. It should anchor her to her purpose. It should realign her to her ‘how’.

A playlist.
Ain’t nothing like a dope ass playlist. If you have multiple playlists depending on your mood or what you need it for, then you are winning! This playlist should be one that you can play from start to finish. Whether you are cleaning the house, getting over a break up or just relaxing and becoming one with your zen. If you don’t have one, go ahead and create one today! What are you waiting on?!

Her favorite bottle of wine & snack.
Don’t ever underestimate what a good bottle of wine and a delicious dessert can do for your mind, body & soul! I love chocolate and I love gummy worms. Whenever I am stressing out over life’s ups and downs, I give myself a night to tickle my taste buds. Oh, the simple things!

A little black dress.
Every girl should have at least one little black dress in her closet. A dress that she can wear in the boardroom or one that she can slip on when stepping out for a girls’ night out on the town. In both situations, she should feel like a bad ass bitch when she slips it on. She should feel powerful beyond measure.

Some hoop earrings.
I don’t know about you, but when I put on my hoop earrings, I feel like all of my black girl magic calls on my ancestors to get me through my day. Hoop earrings make me feel like I have super powers! The bigger the better!

A great bra.
There’s nothing like a bra that fits! When the girls are sitting pretty, that contributes to an absolute great day for me! A great bra is like a good girlfriend; cute AND supportive! I get my bras from Land Bryant. There are many other options out there; Livi Rae being one of them.

A right hand ring.
Every woman should celebrate herself! And why not with a piece of jewelry? Something that stands out and catches glances from across the room. A right hand ring is a great way to do just that! You should check out The Modern Gents Trading Company to get your fix!

A vibrator.
There comes a time when a girl needs to wind down and relax. She may have an internal yearning to satisfy, an insatiable craving from within. She may not feel the need to reach out to someone else to fulfil this desire. She may want to explore her own curves. A vibrator does the trick for me! I shop at Liberator and Bedroom Kandi for my needs!

BTW: Did you know that orgasms are beneficial to your health? They improve circulation to organs in the pelvic cavity, delivering nutrients, growing healthy tissues, and regulating your menstrual cycle. They increase fertility and sense of wellness. They improve digestion and mood and help prevent cancer. They promote healthy estrogen levels to  protect you against osteoporosis and heart disease.

Sexy lingerie.
I used to think that lingerie was only worn for your lover. But as I continue to journey through womanhood and my own self exploration and the things that make me happy, lingerie is definitely on the list. I love the way I feel when I slip it on. After taking a long bubble bath and moisturizing my body with shea butter & body oils, I slip on something lace or satin and just lay around the house in it. I feel like a queen! I feel beautiful, more so because only I get to enjoy it. There’s like another level of intimacy in that for me.

A pair of comfortable yet sexy pair of heels.
Shoes can be your best friend or your worst enemy. We all deserve a pair that are killer but that won’t kill us. My life goal (well one of them) is to find a pair that feels as good as it looks!

A pair of black leggings.
Who doesn’t own a pair of leggings?! At this juncture in life, I own several pair! I wear them to the gym, to the market, to work and to bed. They are so comfortable and multi purposeful! A must have in every girl’s wardrobe!

A favorite perfume or signature scent.
A woman should always smell good! She should have a scent that is hers. An aroma that walks into the room before she does and then lingers a bit after she leaves. I personally wear body oil. I receive so many compliments on my scent. I love that it lasts all day. If you live in Atlanta, check out Afrocentric Network! Tell them that I sent you! If you’ve ever said: “What is she wearing?!” and “OMG, she smells so good!” I probably had on “Golden Sand”.

A favorite pair of jeans.
Great fitting jeans are hard to come by these days. My favorite pair(s) of jeans have come from Charlotte Russe! I am saddened by the fact that they are closing every where! I pray that someone picks up the Refuge brand. Like seriously! They are the only brand of jeans that are affordable, stretchy, comfortable and fit my curves right! Shoot, they even give me a little booty!

One good girlfriend… or a tribe.
Every girl should have at least one good girlfriend who will talk her down off the ledge or post her bail; she is completely with the shits either way. And if you have a few of them in your pocket, consider yourself beyond blessed. If you don’t have a tribe, find you one! Not now, but right now! A place where you can authentically be yourself. A place where you are not “Yaaaaaaaaaaassss”‘d to death. A place that celebrates you, flaws and all.

I hope that you found some relatability in this blog post and were able to take some personal inventory. Remember to ALWAYS celebrate yourself first and to go where you are celebrated! Is there anything else that you would add to the list? Please leave it in the comments!

“I Said Yes…… To Putting A Right Hand Ring On It!”

'Cause if you liked it, then you should have put a ring on it
If you liked it, then you should have put a ring on it
Don't be mad once you see that he want it
If you liked it, then you should have put a ring on it

Who can ever forget the catchy tune to Beyonce’s female power anthem ‘Single Ladies’ where she berated her ex for failing to “put a ring on it”? I know that I can’t! I remember when the song first came out and me and my girls would run to the dance floor as soon as we heard the beat drop and would reenact the entire video! Ah, good times! LOL

Instead of being bitter about about an ex who didn’t realize your worth, why not celebrate your own dopeness? I know of a great way to do just that; a right hand ring! More and more, right hand rings are seen being worn as a declaration of independence or to mark a milestone, whatever their significance. I highly recommend that you give it some consideration!

What are right hand rings? 

Worn as a declaration of independence or to mark a milestone, whatever their significance, right-hand rings are most definitely in. Often the purchase of the ring is significant too, as women may invest in a right-hand ring to mark a milestone birthday, a professional achievement or even a divorce. While the term ‘right hand ring’ is a relatively new one, the idea of wearing a ring on the right hand to signify a woman’s economic independence has its roots in the original cocktail rings of the 1920s. As the prohibition movement swept across America, women partaking in the underground drinking scene would don brightly coloured, flamboyant, oversized rings that they had purchased with their own money. The best thing about right finger rings is that there are no rules.

How do you wear right hand rings? 

In keeping with the tradition set by the 1920s flappers, in Western countries the right hand is often reserved for fun, flamboyant jewels, such as cocktail rings. As most people are right handed, wearing a statement ring on this hand will increase its visibility, making it more noticeable for other people. With rings of a more minimal design, wearing them stacked vertically on one finger or spread across the whole hand can look very stylish. Rings that coil up the finger are also very fashionable at the moment.

What do right hand rings mean? 

In countries such as the UK and the US, where the left ring finger tends to be earmarked for love and commitment, wearing a diamond ring on the right hand makes it clear that it is not an engagement ring. The 1920s concept that a ring worn on the right hand says ‘me’ while the left hand represents ‘we’ still resonates with women today. In 2003, the ‘Raise your Right Hand’ campaign launched, targeting women with enough money to buy a diamond ring for themselves. The campaign had the catch line such: “Your left hand rocks the cradle. Your right hand rules the world”.

Why has the right hand ring become special to The Dean of Fashion & Beauty?

Ever since the craze of right hand rings began trending some years ago, I became interested in having one for myself. While I have accomplished plenty in my life (Several degrees & purchased my first home for starters…), I never felt like any one milestone in particular warranted such a purchase.

Recently, I had the epiphany that I didn’t need to pinpoint or single out any specific moment, so I chose Women’s History Month to be my reason! I realized that I could just get one simply because I’m dope AF (periodt). Shortly after, as if by fate (or maybe I was being tracked by Facebook/Instagram’s algorithm, I dunno. LOL), I stumbled upon Modern Gents Trading Company. I saw that I had found an affordable opportunity that was at my fingertips and I could finally own a beautiful right hand ring at a fraction of the price!

As I began to window shop and finger scroll on my phone during my lunch break, I instantly fell in love with a rose gold ring set; “The Lovely” & her beautiful bestie “The Eternity“. I call them besties, because together they look really good as a unit! The Lovely features a magnificent 3 ct simulated morganite center stone and a strong 925 sterling silver band plated in authentic rose gold. The Eternity has a glimmering set of beautiful stones that are delicately placed around the 925 sterling silver band plated in rose gold.

*Please note that these pics were taken of the ring while it was on my left hand in order for me to take pictures with ease. I’m right handed and it served to be a pretty difficult task. No, I am not engaged, nor am I perpetuating to be.

When I arrived home from work, I couldn’t be any happier to see what was waiting for me in my mailbox! I had just ordered the rings on Saturday and they were here by Monday! Wow, talk about expedited shipping! Amazon Prime had nothing on them! After I opened the packaging, I became immediately smitten by my rings! Let me be the first to say that if pictures are worth 1000 words, these beauties were priceless! Seriously…. to see them in person, I was speechless! Photographs absolutely do them no justice! The way in which the light reflects off of the stones is both captivating and mesmerizing! I couldn’t believe what I was seeing!

I’d be remiss if I failed to mention Mod Gents’ customer service! OMG, they treated like I was family! If I had to compare them to any fast food restaurant, it would be Chick-Fil-A! And I mean who doesn’t love Chick-Fil-A?! If I could, I would eat it every day of the week, even on Sundays (when they are closed)!

“I Said Yes…” To Putting A Right Hand Ring On It! And I hope that you enjoyed reading my blog post! If you are in the market to join the tribe of Right Hand Ring Wearers, you should give The Modern Gents Trading Company a try!

*A special shoutout goes to the Modern Gents Trading Company for sponsoring this ring set*

The Business Warming Party

Hey Scholars,

Sidebar: I’m working on a name for my subbies. Do you like it? Let me know what you think! Want to share any of your suggestions with me? My ears are open……DM too! LOL

On Saturday, March 2nd, I had the honor of attending The Business Warming Party, hosted by Erika King of Business & Brunch at Industrious Ponce City Market, I had an amazing time while I was there and I had the opportunity to connect with some even more amazing women, all making boss ass moves in each of their own lanes.

It all started with a “call for bloggers” that I answered. I was digging the vibes of this event and knew immediately that I wanted to take part in it. Erika responded in kind and approved my request to attend a blogger. Yay! So with my press pass in hand and my calendar marked, I was ready!

What is a business warming party, you might ask? Don’t worry, I had the same question too!

First, one must begin with defining what a house warming party is. Wikipedia states that “a house-warming party is a party traditionally held soon after moving into a new residence. It is an occasion for the host to present their new home to their friends and family, post moving, and for friends and family to give gifts to furnish the new home”.

A business warming takes that concept and puts a bit of a twist on it. According to it’s creator, the event was born from the idea that if you can host events for someone who has purchased their first home, preparing for the arrival of a new child or tying the knot; why not for a new business? Why shouldn’t a girl who is starting her own business be celebrated and gifted things that will help her prosper? Shouldn’t she be filled with encouragement as she embarks on her new journey from all of her loved ones? The question was asked…….and Viola, The Business Warming became the answer!

By the end of this empowering afternoon that was filled with plenty of networking opportunities, a spa lounge, a mini headshot station, and a bar; I walked away feeling hella full (and maybe a little tipsy LOL). The new budding relationships that were forged in that space was beyond magical! So many genuine hugs, smiles and “Hey girl, Hey!” moments were had. I look forward to curating, collaborating, creating and celebrating at some point this year which each and everyone that I encountered.

One requirement of each guest that attended The Business Warming Party was to bring a gift for another woman that they could use in their business life. Somehow my own energy and that of Ka’Sh The Stylist, connected us to each other. I had come alone and so did she, but we chatted like two long lost high schoolers at a class reunion! While immersed in conversation, the time had come for everyone to exchange gifts. Unanimously, we both decided to exchange with each other. And OMG, it was as if this gift was curated exclusively just for me! She had no idea that pink is my favorite color. She had no idea that I had been eyeballing this very notebook the day before and left it cuz I was not in TJ Maxx to shop for myself and needed to exercise some restraint. She had no idea that I was in need of a new passport cover. She new nothing about my new affinity for all things rose gold! Nor did she know that I like clean/earthy scents. Thank you, new friend! I hope that you enjoy your gift as much as I love mine! We WILL see each other again! Bet that, sis!

This event both inspired and empowered me! If I’m being completely honest, it lit a fire under my ass and perhaps even one from within. Stay tuned to see what I do with it! Way to go, Erika on curating such a dope ass event! I’m already looking forward to next year! Same time, same place?! You can definitely count me in!

Jeans| Jegging, High-Waisted, Skinny & More…

Recently, I was in need of some new jeans. Either the old ones no longer fit or I had totally  stressed out my “distressed” jeans to the point of no return. I’m pretty certain that we all are no stranger to the typical big girl problems of jeans: the thighs being rubbed out of your favorite pair of jeans! UGH!

On Black Friday, I lucked up on an amazing sale! I messed around I got 7 pairs of jeans for a little over $100! WOW, right?! Some of my favorite jeans have come from Charlotte Russe over the years and that is where I found this amazing deal that I just had to take part in! Each pair of jeans were about $15-20 dollars each and I also used their “20% off coupon” for joining their mailing list. I am all about a deal, sale and/or coupon! I don’t ever pay full price for anything from anywhere unless I absolutely have to! Oh and they had FREE SHIPPING at the time too! I was winning that day!

My favorite pair from my haul are these: Plus Size Refuge Destroyed Skintight Legging Jeans shown in these pics below. Also in this pic is my “Algorithm Duster” by Stamped by Ieshia and my Abba Kitten Heel Bootie by Eloquii.

I was in between hairstyles, so I rocked this lovely wig named “Dee” with a turban to hold me over.

Here are some others that I personally think you should add to your cart too!

HAPPY SHOPPING!

Plus Size Refuge Destroyed Boyfriend Jeans – Light Wash

Plus Size Refuge Destroyed Boyfriend Jeans – Medium Wash

Plus Size Refuge Destroyed Boyfriend Jeans – Dark Wash

Plus Size Refuge Skin Tight Legging Destroyed Jeans

Ps. Where do you shop for jeans? What are your “go to” cut & style of jeans? Leave a comment below!

Small Business Spotlight: Braids by Nari

Yesterday, I had the pleasure of having Nari bless me with some waist length TRIBAL BRAIDS! I arrived at Royal Braid Lounge at 9 AM sharp! She was ON TIME and she worked diligently non stop! We were done around 4 PM. BTW: I have a big ass head! LOL

I am absolutely pleased with my services! Nari did an excellent job with my hair, even with it being short! Her professionalism was unmatched! She had a very positive vibe & an upbeat attitude throughout my entire appointment, to which I can appreciate. I am very big on vibes! I’ve already mentioned becoming one of her regular customers!

If you are in the Atlanta area and looking for someone who does braids that are dope AF, look no further!

Ps. They DO NOT hurt! I was able to sleep last night! LOL

An Open Letter

An Open Letter

From: The Dean of Fashion & Beauty

Where do I start? How do you compose words that tell a story of such gratitude?

Dear fellow bloggers, designers, makeup artists, models & photographers, fellow fashionistas & divas, fellow movers & shakers, fellow boss babes & entrepreneurs, and fellow FLUFFIES:

This letter comes from a heart full of thankfulness and a spirit filled with love & joy and as we wrap up a successful year as bourgeoning bloggers. 

They say, whoever “they” are, that your vibe attracts your tribe. Only days after deciding to start blogging about my love of fashion, beauty, style, health, entertainment & travel; did I meet two other women who would start a journey with me that would later create a safe space for other girls who were tired of trying to fit in or be accepted. The Fluffy Girl Tribe was born and created out of necessity. We didn’t want to beg for seats at anyone’s table so we created our own!

Oh, what a year it has been!

Elle & Alicia, while we have many more lessons to learn, obstacles to face and hurdles to jump, I can wholeheartedly say that we have each blossomed both individually & collectively! A year full of growth has now passed and I am looking forward to sharing many more! THANK YOU for journeying with me! THANK YOU for holding me accountable! THANK YOU for pushing me out of my comfort zone!

THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU! 

Ps. The only way to go now is to the top!

– Raé

What’s new in 2019?

I decided to give my CLOSET SALE of new & gently used items a name and created this logo for it. SIMPLY FASHIONS BOUTIQUE. I plan to expand to becoming an actual boutique in a year or so if The Lord is willing and has it in his plan for me! Don’t forget to click the “FOR SALE” tab in my highlights to see what I have available! THANK YOU to those of you who continue to SHOP & SUPPORT!

I have ALWAYS wanted to do a brunch series! In 2019, I will be making it happen! A bunch of BOSS BABES BRUNCHING & networking at different restaurants throughout Atlanta! STAY TUNED…